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To be a shoulder or not to be a shoulder 

There is nothing like a person who, when you see them, complains every time you see them. What do you do? How do you act? What do you say? Will they listen? There are more questions than answers sometimes, but most of the time they want company in their misery and complaining. They don't want to know about you, they are just wanting to vent and then leave you with the stress of it all. 

Here is my advise. If you will to be their friend, remain a shoulder to cry on, then make sure you realize they are not asking for your help, they just need to talk. When you are that shoulder, remember not to take on their issues, it will only frustrate you, but release their issues and continue with your life. I have had much experience with trying to solve the issue, but in the end they will do what they want and most of the time it is not what they should do. 

It is not easy listening to them gripe about their continued issues, not listening to your sound advise, and repeating the same thing over and over again, sometimes for months, even years on end. Don't set yourself up for failure, just let them gripe, complain, and then get on with your life. In the end everything will either work out for them, or you will have to move on and will no longer be able to be that shoulder. For those who don't want to be the shoulder, speak up and let them know you can't take on their issues, especially if they don't want to tackle them themselves. 

Well that is all for now, but remember you have complete control of our own life so live it! 

Until next time,

Yaya Diamond™